Updated: Jul 12
It is nice to have big dreams - I guess. Since the 90’s, the idea of “go big or go home” started taking root in our psyche, and the size of our personal dreams also seem to have inflated. Sometimes, it really feels like if one’s dream isn’t big enough, then it is not worth having. I totally bought into that idea until recently when I started to follow through with it.
I quit my full time job back in May and our family uprooted so that we could have a lifestyle of freedom. Making grand gestures seemed appropriate for achieving my big dreams, so yay me! As the dust of moving settles, I have all the space and time now, my big dream seems to be right there within my reach.
One day, as I sat in my big white kitchen while my daughter napped upstairs in her room, I took in the spacious quietness and then… felt more lost and overwhelmed than ever. What have I done? What am I going to do now? Can I really do this? These were some thoughts that visited me. The enormous distance between having that big dream and the steps required to close the gap is so daunting that I think it stops most people from making their dreams a reality. Our brains don’t like change and uncertainty, so much that they WILL throw every possible reason at us to keep us where we are - and be comfortable. As if watching a movie playing out in my head, the movie’s villain and heroine became very clear to me.
The bigger the dream, the harder it is to get there. The harder it is to get there, the less likely we get there. So what is the point of having big dreams if we can’t make ourselves go chase after them? Dream big or go home, in reality, is more so dream big and stall - for the most of us.
This month, Instead of letting my “big dreams” take up mental space as a way to motivate myself (it is currently doing the opposite), I would like to forget about my big dreams and focus on achievable actions that will slowly move the needle forward.
Do you have any success stories with achieving your goals? Please share with me in comment section below!